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Posted by: Adinay.2589

Adinay.2589

I am relatively new to GW2 (1 month now) I have met several good people in this game, and all in all the community is amazing. However, it seems the friends I make either do not have the same focus, or are just not active, or quit the game after a while of playing, because they’ve played since launch.

I am on the Tarnished Coast server and would love to meet anyone that is in a similar situation. I am a competitionist, and with only 3k AP I have a lot left to get, and I also enjoy the challenge of the real hard PvE content.

I play all aspects of the game, largely with the focus on PvE.
I want to obtain and farm high level fractals.
I want dungeon master.
I want to farm for legendary mats (If they release/improve skins I will actually buy one)

Mostly just want to meet people that are pretty serious about the game, not complaining about every new update, that want to have fun and complete stuff together, discuss builds, ect.

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Posted by: milo.6942

milo.6942

i agree it’s really hard to care to keep any friendships
imo it’s because you never really need anyone specific for content

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Posted by: cesmode.4257

cesmode.4257

Hey, (im not on TC)

Anets direction with some of the updates is questionable. Im not a fan of a lot of it, I think we need more real-threat type of content rather than living story/fluff/celebration themes. I do like this update, however. More combat and less clicky-clicky. But another celebration event and I’ll lose my mind.

However, yeah it is difficult to keep people playing. I had a RL friend who played one month to 80, and promptly went back to WoW (for a stupid reason I might add…apparently he didnt acquire enough crafting mats, and i guess crafting is important to him…he couldn’t level up crafting because of this…) But I really think he just wanted to go back to WoW.

In either case, since all of the updates are theme-based or celebration based, or living story based with no impact on the world/lore/etc…no threat..yah people lose interest. They say more is going to impact the world. How they didnt see this earlier that a lack of meaningful impactful content is a bad thing, I dont know. Just like with ascended gear: How they couldnt see the backlash of not informing us of another tier beyond exotic when the game launched, I dont know. Like I said, questionable decision, shady stuff and really puts a damper on things.

Karma is as abundant as air, and as useless as the Kardashians.

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Posted by: Vayne.8563

Vayne.8563

Try a guild that focuses on the same stuff, with active members (like mine lol).

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Posted by: Adinay.2589

Adinay.2589

Try a guild that focuses on the same stuff, with active members (like mine lol).

I have done this just recently, and probably should post something similar to this in our guild forums if I want a “buddy” or two. It is just nice to have that person you do a lot with, helping each other achieve everything they want. This game just seems to have two types of people (mostly).

1) New people that don’t end up staying
2) People that have been here since beta that don’t care too much for new freinds because they’re already done all the stuff I want to do.

I fit in as # 3) New but confident I am staying for a long time, and want to find others that want to accomplish all the same stuff. For example, taking on a handful of jumping puzzles every day until we both finish them all. Just as one example.

I guess server doesn’t matter a whole lot as you can always stay guested to your friends server.

The way this game built its community is amazing, but yes they need to keep the living world more engaging. Maybe make updates less often but add more stuff. Like the update back in the fall (or whenever it was, I wasn’t around) Where they added all the Fractals. That doesn’t need to be all the time, but even adding an update that big every 3 months, with once a month living world “fillers” would be awesome.

Anyway, back on topic, anyone that is in a place like I am where they play just about every night and want someone to buddy up with, let me know

I play pretty regular 7/8 PM EST for the majority of the evening.

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Posted by: kishter.9578

kishter.9578

gamer since beta 1, have 0 friends in my list. i used to have around 15 but now there are all offline(quit). Dont bother in stuff like that.

We just don’t want players to grind in Guild Wars 2. No one enjoys that.

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Posted by: Milennin.4825

Milennin.4825

I’ve been playing since Beta, and haven’t made any longterm friends either. I’ve had a few people on my friends list that I used to talk to from time to time, or sometimes joined for a dungeon run, but I don’t think any of them are still playing.
I think the problem is that there isn’t really any way of relaxing in the game that isn’t standing still in a town. I think the game would benefit from an easy, yet reasonable rewarding mini-game/activity such as fishing or whatever. Something players can do together to socialise while still getting something done ingame.
Chatting during combat just gets irritating and is too impractical.

Just who the hell do you think I am!?

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Posted by: Adinay.2589

Adinay.2589

I like how everyone is posting that they have the same problem but are not interested in trying to make friends anymore lol. Given up I guess. Every game I have played I’ve found one or two people that pretty much do everything together. Unfortunately they didn’t come with me to this game.

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Posted by: Darkeus.2369

Darkeus.2369

Aww…. I am new and I want friends too…. I have one right now. :-)

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Posted by: Adinay.2589

Adinay.2589

Quick snap by a waterfall.

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Posted by: Milennin.4825

Milennin.4825

I like how everyone is posting that they have the same problem but are not interested in trying to make friends anymore lol. Given up I guess. Every game I have played I’ve found one or two people that pretty much do everything together. Unfortunately they didn’t come with me to this game.

I wouldn’t mind adding you, but you’re on an NA server, while I’m on EU.
But if anyone on EU’s interested in doing dungeons from time to time, or levelling an alt together, feel free to contact me ingame.

Just who the hell do you think I am!?

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Posted by: Grounder.7381

Grounder.7381

I agree.. all of my friends have left the game already..
the early lv grinds really put off some newbies.

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Posted by: Shieero.9187

Shieero.9187

Said it long time ago, this game is not social at all.

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Posted by: PainShot.7154

PainShot.7154

Nice, so im not the only one that lose tons of friends in this game cause they leave.
Its hard to know if that is good or bad…

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Posted by: Adinay.2589

Adinay.2589

If any of you share some of my interests or just on TC server you should add me, I’m on every night, like to group, and I’m not going anywhere

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Posted by: Sil.4560

Sil.4560

I’ve got almost a hundred contacts and well over a hundred “followers”, but few people I’d call friends. There are loads of nice people but the game doesn’t lend itself to making close personal connections all that often I guess.

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Posted by: Adinay.2589

Adinay.2589

I’ve got almost a hundred contacts and well over a hundred “followers”, but few people I’d call friends. There are loads of nice people but the game doesn’t lend itself to making close personal connections all that often I guess.

I find myself deleting people because we never talk and I like to keep my friends list consistent of people I do things with. And trust me I don’t just add and delete, most people I ask if they want to do this or that, but so many times people cant do things or are busy or whatever. I want a bud

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Posted by: medohgeuh.4650

medohgeuh.4650

This isn’t anything exclusive to Guild Wars 2; the average MMOer tends to have a short attention span, rarely sticking with any one game for too long.

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Posted by: Lucky.9421

Lucky.9421

People come and go. Try finding a guild that has been around a while. Don’t forget to reach out to guildies yourself. It is a two-way street.

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Posted by: Adinay.2589

Adinay.2589

This isn’t anything exclusive to Guild Wars 2; the average MMOer tends to have a short attention span, rarely sticking with any one game for too long.

Good point. I’m looking for someone that’s not average though, or I wouldn’t need to be looking.

People come and go. Try finding a guild that has been around a while. Don’t forget to reach out to guildies yourself. It is a two-way street.

Good point here also. I need to reach out more and find people. I have been in the guild and now on here as well.

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Posted by: Jrunyon.3012

Jrunyon.3012

For everyone that says this game isn’t social, maybe you should try being social and not just expecting the game to make you friends. Like Lucky said, it’s a two way street.

Nesmee – Thief
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Posted by: Adinay.2589

Adinay.2589

For everyone that says this game isn’t social, maybe you should try being social and not just expecting the game to make you friends. Like Lucky said, it’s a two way street.

I am social, use /s a lot, talk with people, turns into whispers, group up, have fun. Never seems to last. People either are only on once a week, quit the game, are busy/have different interests next time I whisper them. Thats why I came to the Forums. Looking for that person to group with mosts nights and enjoy time together helping achieve things.

PS: I called this game the opposite of “not social” I complimented the games social system and then went on to explain my problem. Maybe read the whole OP.

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Posted by: Lucky.9421

Lucky.9421

Another thing is try not to get bummed out if it doesn’t go so easy. That’s just how things are. If you let it get you down, you can’t improve your situation.

PS – Just keep at it.

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Posted by: Morrigan.2809

Morrigan.2809

I have been playing since the betas and most of my core of friends that started with me still play the thing is that many people are quite busy irl and as such they log on sporadically- they do log on when they can and we chat/ catch up etc.
I leveled mostly with my husband originally but he doesn’t really play anymore and I am not a fan of group content for various reasons.
So I like the fact that I can solo stuff while talking to people.

I love helping out new players and I actually joined a brand new guild by a new player specifically because that is what their mission is- I thought that was a nice idea

I have made some friends in game and I like the fact that we can just say hi and spend a bit of time sometimes
Without the drama and full time work I’ve had in another game.

Having activities designed around this kind of socializing would also be awesome- it is a bit awkward just sort of sanding there talking, you feel like you have to be off.

Gunnar’s Hold

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Posted by: medohgeuh.4650

medohgeuh.4650

Good point. I’m looking for someone that’s not average though, or I wouldn’t need to be looking.

Well I am also on Tarnished Coast, so if you’re looking for a reliable buddy for anything, just shoot me a message.

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Posted by: Adinay.2589

Adinay.2589

Another thing is try not to get bummed out if it doesn’t go so easy. That’s just how things are. If you let it get you down, you can’t improve your situation.

PS – Just keep at it.

Thanks!

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Posted by: Adinay.2589

Adinay.2589

Good point. I’m looking for someone that’s not average though, or I wouldn’t need to be looking.

Well I am also on Tarnished Coast, so if you’re looking for a reliable buddy for anything, just shoot me a message.

Will do!

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Posted by: Darkeus.2369

Darkeus.2369

Plus I mean some of us do have other things to do. Once I get back to college, I will only be on so many times a week. Just the way it goes. Work and classes leave only so much time…. Or sleep…. :-p

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Posted by: Taerik.3405

Taerik.3405

It is a real shame sometimes, because I have thought since gw1 days that it is the people you play with that make a game good

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Posted by: Kingzook.1620

Kingzook.1620

The problem with this game is that is is catered to the casual player. Meaning that there is no hard dungeons or content that requires a close knit friendship. I remember playing Aion, i had a guild and we all knew each other and were good friends. We had to be because when a new dungeon came out, they were A) long and B ) hard. You wanted people that were good and would not get mad and rage after a few wipes. Here, things are so easy that most dungeons can be done with any pug group and any class/race. It is the problem with the no holy trinity. Everyone is replaceable so “friends” come and go

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Posted by: medohgeuh.4650

medohgeuh.4650

Let’s not confuse tedious, artificial difficulty with genuine challenge.

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Posted by: Adinay.2589

Adinay.2589

Completing every queens gauntlet achievement was a nice challenge.

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Posted by: Inculpatus cedo.9234

Inculpatus cedo.9234

I’m not on TC, nor much of a puzzle-jumper, so I probably wouldn’t be your cup of tea. I do play every day around that time, and other times, as well. Been here since beta, and not going anywhere.

My suggestion, for you, is to try posting in the Players Helping Players subforum. Probably get lots more responses there. Of course, this thread may be moved there, anyway. Good luck to you, and happy gaming. =)

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Posted by: Adinay.2589

Adinay.2589

I’m not on TC, nor much of a puzzle-jumper, so I probably wouldn’t be your cup of tea. I do play every day around that time, and other times, as well. Been here since beta, and not going anywhere.

My suggestion, for you, is to try posting in the Players Helping Players subforum. Probably get lots more responses there. Of course, this thread may be moved there, anyway. Good luck to you, and happy gaming. =)

I only do puzzles for achievement points / title.
My main objectives are end game PvE (fractals, dungeons, ect)

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Posted by: Mosharn.8357

Mosharn.8357

i know dem feelz half my friend list is dead and its sad.

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Posted by: Xenon.4537

Xenon.4537

My friends quit this game for:

1. Too easy. They don’t care for alts, so they max one toon, get full exotics, realize there’s no gear treadmill, and quit. They only see the game as a checklist of filling out their best-in-slot and find no enjoyment in anything else in life.

2. Too hard. They struggle to level up because they have crippling A.D.H.D and can’t focus on one game long enough to get anywhere in it. They also can’t l2p and rage at how “hard” dungeons are, and they cant get anything better than green gear because they don’t invest enough time to make money for anything else.

I’ve recently realized that I actually rarely play any games with these friends… I met them for one reason or another and now our only interaction is over vent/teamspeak. I haven’t made any close friends with anyone through GW2 yet… Most of the people I meet either don’t like me, or don’t stick around the game long enough.