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Posted by: Sarabande.8260

Sarabande.8260

Mods, please don’t ban me. Others, I mean no disrespect or troll

Ummm, this is really hard, and I don’t know where to put this, so whatever – here it goes.

We all have problems in some way or another, and I do not make light of anyone’s problems with respect to mine. I am utterly destroyed and broken; defeated, battered, humiliated, and demoralized. I try and remain strong , and I have (as they say) “manned up” which is evidenced by the fact that I am alive and that I try to make semi-nice posts and be friendly here.

My wife is horrible, awful, wretched and the nucleus of my suffering and her BF treats me like trash and she just had a kid and doesn’t know if it is mine. I have a child with her already and am stuck. She has lied on me and shamed me in front of everyone. All the hell I have [like many others] is these games.

Someone please be my friend in here, someone who suffers like me, someone who is stronger than me, someone who can help me in any way. I wrote a thread on here the other day asking for “penpals” but I haven’t really been able to log and check my mail… I logged but for like 1 min literally and forgot to check mail.

Just send me mails and talk to me, or whisper me if you see me on. My name is Sang Blackwood.

Despite some minor annoyances, I really like Guild Wars 2 and maybe I can enjoy the game with some of you.

I wont be back and it is 4am here and I am really tired and since I can FINALLY probably sleep, imma hop on it.

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Posted by: Scumbag Mawile.6384

Scumbag Mawile.6384

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Disciple of Quag

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Posted by: Morrigan.2809

Morrigan.2809

Hi- I am not particularly suffering, I am friendly.
I actually did send you a mail the other day- you can talk to me if you see me online.
Not sure how I can help though

Gunnar’s Hold

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Posted by: Vayne.8563

Vayne.8563

I sent you an in game mail too.

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Posted by: Jack of Tears.9458

Jack of Tears.9458

Nuage, what server are you on? Would make it easier for people to hook up with you in game if they knew.


I’m sorry I stepped outta yer box, don’ worry, if
ya whine enough they’ll put me right back.

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Posted by: Sarabande.8260

Sarabande.8260

Sorry guys. I can’t sleep, and am about to go make myself some breakfast, beut before I do, I can talk a bit. I am on the server Tarnished Coast, it’s a great community btw. Either way, I’ll try to be on at some point during the day.

My sincere apologies folks, I am sorry to come off as some pathetic weakling on a friggin gaming forum…. that is how rock bottom I am. It’s all I have outside so-called RL —- I say “so-called” as if interactions in games aren’t real as well, but that’s another discussion. Please, I beg you, bear with me.

I am not a monster. Mods, please, please – let me story be heard. Gamers, I know we aren’t the most compassionate bunch, and we can be sharp, but lease try and have a lil bit of compassion for me here. I am a real person, not just black letters on a screen.

I seek not attention, or pitty, but help. I have no insurance, my wife took it from me. I have been to the psych ward and have sank even more into debt. I am not a bad guy, even if I was, I would have to be Pol Pot, Ted Bundy, or friggin’ Nero to deserve this.

I HAVE BEEN SHAMED by a woman who has me trapped with a child. She is a serial cheater, and her family is , for the most part, upright and moral people. So to excuse her wretched actions she appeals to their bias and paints me as an abusive tyrant when it is I who’s been abused.

Man, I am reluctant to send this, but I’m gonna anyway. Mods, please if you delete this can you at least do me the massive favor of sending me copies of what people say to my e-mail. I don’t know where to seek help, that’s why I am here. Shrinks are too expensive. I am not a troll. You can message me on the Tarnished Coast on my Character Sang Blackwood who is an 80 Guard, or my new thief named Jade Vidal.

I am not joking, I know trolls pull this stuff, but I am serious.

I used to be a good guy, an intelligent person, 4.0 history major who ate professors alive in debates and won awards, but I am descending into madness – I can’t even clean my room. I am no sexist, please know I am not, I LOVE femininity, I am no misogynist, you can see a while back, months ago the things I wrote in a “why guys play girls thread” … but this woman has completelyy destroyed and infested my mind guys and I am destroyed. I NEED HELP please. No I am not suicidal, but if a doc told me I had a day to live, I wouldn’t cry.

IMAGINE MY PLIGHT: My “wife” is pregnant doesn’t know by who, but agrees to let me coach her through the labor. I do this for her, witness a c-section (which is insane if you’ve seen one), I see this child pulled from her stomach, she later looks at me and the new boy tells me she believes he is mine (confirming what I thought too), and even goes so far as to name him with me … she gets discharged on mother’s day, sweet talks me, has me buy her clothes and whatnot to visit her mom in, says she’ll call me back the FRIGGIN’ LEAVES WITH HER PARAMOUR, after lying to and using me…. I have dealt with this sort of crap for years.

Tell me… how much is one man supposed to take?

Am I saint? HELL NO! I take responsibility for my actions, but I don’t deserve this, nobody does. I have had my face spit in, my mother called a b——, my father stolen from, I have been kicked down stairs, punched in the face and driven to the brink of suicide, and I lashed out at this women and fought back and noew I am an abusive monster. Sorry, maybe I am a PoS, but if someone cheats on you the night of your uncle’s funeral, on another occasion, on another punches you in the throat, and spits snot in your face…. ummmm yeah… that breaks someone.

Hey wanna hear something funny? I went to court against this woman to fight custody of the son I have now —- she accused me of all sorts of abuse, stalking even the big bad “R” word, even accused me of child abuse…. I had literally the world’s worst lawyer who would make Lionel Hutz proud, and the judge was a man-hating harridan… and her BS still didn’t hold up … the Judge didn’t even believe her, and when she was giving her story, you could see the people in the court shaking their head as is t say “lol yeah right” … also didn’t help when her and her sister’s story didn’t match.

F My life, forgive my typos, and I am sorry to blog here. I won’t do it again, you have my word.

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Posted by: Inculpatus cedo.9234

Inculpatus cedo.9234

Your county mental health program can assist you at little or no charge. If your situation is as bad as you describe, you should run, don’t walk, to your nearest shelter. Shelters are not for abused women only. Things sound dire, and as there is little forum-users can do but offer some written support, I would encourage you to seek the professional help you desperately need. Best of luck to you. =)

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Posted by: tigirius.9014

tigirius.9014

My husband and I have been dealing with the extremely and violently slanted laws regarding family legal requirements in this country and it’s wrong in almost all cases against men. The women in these cases can simply spout any lie they wish, take people to court for completely fabricated nonsense and if the man chokes while talking to the judge they’re instantly considered monsters. Not to mention everything that’s wrong with transversing state lines to kidnap your kid from his/her father while he’s out to sea serving his country. That’s pretty much what happened to him, he was serving, came home early, found her in bed with another man, found his child screaming in pain with a dirty diaper in the other room, and had to leave the next two days to go back out to sea only to find out that this woman took his child to her parents house while he was serving again and she waiting until he was in a war zone to issue divorce papers. Talk about a messed up legal system.

I feel for you man I really do. Let us know which server you’re on. You’re definitely not alone.

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Posted by: Saturn.6591

Saturn.6591

I feel for you man I really do. Let us know which server you’re on. You’re definitely not alone.

Tarnished Coast. He already said so. Oh, and a quick look at his posting history would provide the same information. ^^

@Nuage: Don’t give up. I can only (try to) imagine how much it must hurt to be treated like that from the woman you loved… or maybe still love. The woman of who you thought she loves you as much as you love her. I’ll stop with details now, because I don’t want to make you feel even worse.

Again, don’t give up. You said the judge didn’t believe her… so, was there an official judgement already? If the judge didn’t believe your wife, it shouldn’t turn out so bad for you… unless there’s a jury who believes her (I assume you live in the US?) (if there’s a jury, that is). Hm well; either way: Don’t give up. At the very least, always remember that you still are you, no matter what. She can’t take that away. You’re a nice guy. A good guy, like you said. You are smart. Some people can be very cruel, and that includes women. Don’t let her destroy you. You deserve to be happy, and eventually you’ll be happy again. Even though you’ll probably find it hard to believe right now.

You suffer and it hurts badly. But even though you’re feeling very sad, angry and hopeless right now… wounds can heal over time. Important is, that you don’t push yourself too hard. Accept those feelings, but don’t let them completely overtake you. Don’t do something desperate. Stay calm when it’s important. Show the judge that you’re not the monster that your wife claims you are. It may take a while (even a long while), but eventually you’ll be able to smile again. Believe in yourself!

:)

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Posted by: Antara.3189

Antara.3189

Hey man,

We all have our backstories and most (if not all) have been in some sort of “rut”. Take a deep breath and really try to calm yourself down to a peaceful state of mind for a minute. Remember that this is your life to live, do it the best way you can. Look up, not down. Do it for yourself, not for anyone else (well your kid too of course). But you have to be strong and confident in yourself. I always look towards the motto “Live, Love, Laugh” if I’m feeling down and tell myself negative thoughts only deter the healthy postitive thoughts that are the true essence of being happy. I would take small steps to make myself happy, little goals each day until I built myself up to make a larger goal possible. If you need to clear your mind, take a short walk. Might sound pointless at first, but as soon as your out and about it will be good. Don’t surround yourself in dark rooms, or negative atmospheres. Windows, light, good smells, happy sounds (good tunes, not sad ones) all play an important role in being happy. I would also change my eating habbits honestly, make me feel good about myself and the choices I make. You cannot control your wifes decisions, but you can take ahold of your own. Make yourself your own role model and everything else will fall into place. You are not alone and there are always people who want to help.

Cheers man!

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Posted by: Facepunch.5710

Facepunch.5710

Hey man,
You cannot control your wifes decisions, but you can take ahold of your own. Make yourself your own role model and everything else will fall into place.

This is fantastic advice! You mentioned that you feel humiliated and demoralized and trapped. Your pride may have taken a pummeling, but it doesn’t have to stay down. You can never be trapped if you make a conscious choice to stay where you are. Choose to be with your son whether you have sole custody of him or not. Love him and take care of him despite his mother’s actions, because it’s what he needs and what you need. As for his mother, I’m sure you have feelings for her, so it hurts every time she betrays you. Remember though, pride takes a hit when someone plays you and betrays you, but she can’t betray your trust once you stop giving it to her.

Please take your tinfoil hats off and be reasonable. ~ReginaB
This forum is a wretched hive of scum and villainy. ~DevilLordLaser

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Posted by: AidanTaylor.3872

AidanTaylor.3872

European Community Manager

Hi Nuage,

As you can imagine I can’t allow this thread to continue as is, mainly due to the nature of some this thread is far to big a potential flame/troll fest.

As you can see from responses here there are folk out there that are in the same boat or have been in the past, in some cases the problems are different but the outcome is the same. We all play games for many different reasons but for most it is to escape, to hide from RL, to make new friends and have new exciting experiences.

You mention that you are sorry for blogging here but it may just be the escape/relief you need, while I can’t condone the use of these forums to blog per se I can suggest the use of Wordpress as it is free for a hosted blog and you can then link to it from the Linksville section of this forum.

Also feel free to PM me if things get worse, but for now “chin up”

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