Guild Wars 2

A channel opened to me today from a person on my friends list, and this person asked that age-old question, ‘’Excuse me, but why are you on my friends list?’’ It soon transpired that they had no idea who I was and why I had been added so I explained a few things about myself and they responded with yet more confusion. Sadly, they felt uncomfortable with not knowing who I was or where they had met me and under which circumstances so I proposed removing myself from their list and offered them the chance to re-add if at some future date they felt the need.

This brings me to an important addition to Guild Wars 2 and I feel it should be implemented. At the moment the friend’s list is rather basic so I propose we add columns to mention DATE ADDED and LOCATION MET (including server). This should at least give the players a chance to know a little more before they decide to just write somebody off. In addition it may prove to be beneficial to add a DATE showing the last time/date you actually conversed with them.

Now I appreciate that all of this information cannot possibly fit onto the bar, so perhaps it can be displayed as a pop-up window which remains in view for as long as the mouse is hovered over their name and vanishes when you move that mouse away. Finally, if that person is known to the other under another avatar, perhaps we can add a short listing of the players avatar names so that one or more of these will trigger some memory and help to eliminate player-friendship dropping.

How about you use a pen and paper and write down some details of people that you add to your friends list?

I used too, yes, but then there are people who add me for some reason – and that’s good. I must have made an impression on them! I’ve been playing since 2012 and I have about forty people who regularly communicate and fight alongside me, yet I also have many many more who I’ve yet to hear from but the list is kept so they have the option of looking me up if they wish too. It’s a tricky situation really as many of those people are vague memories at best (and this is not helped by skull trauma which means my memory is not exactly brilliant, but my long-time friends know this and allow for it).

I rather would prefer it, if anet would finally remove this stupid follower crap first.

Theres no need of that, either you are a friend, or you are not, there should be no grey zone between that.

Orpheal.8263:

I rather would prefer it, if anet would finally remove this stupid follower crap first.

Theres no need of that, either you are a friend, or you are not, there should be no grey zone between that.

Either that, or it should be renamed to “Currently Being Stalked By:”

Orpheal.8263:

I rather would prefer it, if anet would finally remove this stupid follower crap first.

Theres no need of that, either you are a friend, or you are not, there should be no grey zone between that.

No friendly acquaintances in your world? No people who feel like you are their friend but you don’t feel as strongly about them, or you did but now you don’t but their feelings haven’t changed?

In the real world there is a lot of gray between friend and stranger.

I have people on my friend list that I haven’t talked to since the first two months after launch.

I don’t add people to my friends list unless they add me first. When someone does, sometimes I don’t know why they are there, but I don’t question it – I take it as a compliment instead!

Anyway, if you know a reason why someone added you, or why you added someone, you can always set them a nickname in your friends list (via Right Click>Set Nickname) like ‘Helped in Twilight Arbor’ or something.

So perhaps the answer is to bring about a change in the follower list. I mean, let’s analyze it. A ’’follower’’ attaches himself or herself to you for some reason. Perhaps they feel that you know something; perhaps they like your style of doing things. Perhaps like so many of us they don’t know what they are doing and think that perhaps by going with you they can learn. I know that I often offer people the gift of free KNOWLEDGE and say that they are welcome to contact me if they want help, or if they want to know something but on the understanding that I may not be free to assist them in person or to come sort out something they are having an issue with.

I’m free most of the time to converse, even answer those questions, but you’re right; so many ‘followers’ add you and then that’s it – off they go and you’re casually forgotten.

It can make a person feel used, even neglected but then I suspect that is a symptom of the late 20th Century, early 21st with so many people knowing other people who they have never met in real life.

This is why I added that bit at the end of my original commentary about adding a notification for the last time you spoke with them … it might read Feb 28 2015 2.32.19 showing both the date and the amount of time you had a channel open between you. If of course you open and close channels, that information could be updated. Anyway, I’m making it sound complicated when in fact it is a very simple thing to add.

I for one would simply settle for a good old fashioned friend confirmation, rather than the followers list, which has a stalky vibe to it (I actually recently found an ex of mine had come to GW2 and saw her on my followers list, which I only checked by accident. She was promptly blocked

Orpheal.8263:

I rather would prefer it, if anet would finally remove this stupid follower crap first.

Theres no need of that, either you are a friend, or you are not, there should be no grey zone between that.

I prefer it the way it is because my follower list is way bigger than my friends list, i think its ten fold.

I get whispered alot by people that i dont know because they want to know something from me and most of them put me on their friends list to see if im online or not.

Now I dont care, if they follow me or not, but I usually dont put them on my friends list. If I would have to confirm everybody who wants to follow me, it will be a hassle for me and I most likely would decline most people because I dont want them to dillute my own friends list.

You can set a nickname i do it all the time like: fractals or pvp or someting else

I generally get around this by not adding people unless they’re friends. This method also keeps my PSN and XBLive friend’s list from being cluttered with people I don’t know very well. In all due fairness, it’s a friend’s list – not an acquaintance list. If they choose to add me and are on my follower’s list, that’s their choice – but they can’t really PM me and ask me who I am because I’ve taken no initiative to add them too. So if I do get such a message, I’ll just respond, “You’re not on my list.” and let it go.

If it really goes beyond that…well, I don’t know. I guess I’d end up reporting them for stalking me.