GRIND
I’m not sure about what grind you are talking about. If you are talking about ascended gear just do winter berry or any other farm on the new maps for trinkets and you can work on your armor/weapons with crafting or doing some collections. Once you get the trinkets done you can also start doing fractals that require agony resistance and you will start getting more from that
“Play as you like”
As for “play what/how you want”, you can play like that, but don’t expect to have great results with everything you try. You also need to know, that when playing in a GROUP content that requires builds that complement one another, you are one part of the group and should think for the well being of the whole group.
WVW/PVP
As stated in “Play as you like”, not every build you make is going to be good, then there is player skill that plays a part in this. I would say, first stop playing all classes and try to understand one or two, that also makes your problems with gearing them up way smaller.
Guilds
I was in few guilds back in the day when dungeons were a thing. What I noticed is that most of the time there are already groups of people made in the guild that like to play togather and do stuff togather. When i was asking for daily dungeon runs nobody responded because i was new. 20min later the leader or someone well known came online and asked the same thing people just swarmed in. Few months back I joined a guild for raiding and i was unnoticed for a month or two(not being the most talkative person is not helping me), so give it some time, if you are a good player or good company people will notice.
Helping people
If you help people, do it because it gives you some sort of contentment not beacuse you expect them to worship you after.
In the end i would like to say, that because a couple of people that have made you feel like this you should not say “The community is not what it once was. It’s bad. The people are just cruel and moronic.”. There will always be some rotten apples it is just how the world works.
